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Doctor Laura, Really? We Have Bigger Problems Now than Guilting Moms into being Full Time SAHM

I have listened to Dr. Laura Schlessinger most of my life. My mother listened to her religiously. Therefore, confined in a car, I had no other option but  to listen also. Dr. Laura has some great points. She challenges people to step up and be better people. Many of these people need  the tough love of Mamma Laura.

Dr. Laura’s main stand is that moms don’t work. But a friend pointed out many years ago that Dr. Laura only has ONE child. ONE. I’m not trying to diminish the work of parents with only one child but there is a huge difference raising one versus two and more. Moms of multiple children have so much more to balance. More mouths to feed, bodies to clothe, brains to stimulate, bodies to keep active and healthy and personalities to understand.  The list goes on and on. Many days, like today, I’m just trying to make it to bedtime. The average boy is very active. They are constantly in action. You mix multiple boys in a household and you have a Malcom in the Middle episode. (If you haven’t seen Malcom in the Middle-as a mom of boys you owe yourself to watch it).

What about the wonderful mothers trying to do it all? I try to be there 24/7 for my three boys. As many of the mothers reading this, I’m attempting to be everything but falling very short. My children aren’t  suffering but my needs are. I’ve listened to Dr. Laura but I am run-down. I have lost myself. Dr. Laura-you have one child-how can you possibly relate to raising three boys?  HOW? Not to mention the multiple temptations we women have that you didn’t have to deal with as a mother. I’m referring to the technology. Moms can never turn their brains off. EVER!

My point- Give us a break Dr. Laura!!  Some moms need to work to focus their mind in order to be better parents. There are many situations where moms and dads share the child care of the child. Mom can work and get a bit of her identity back while daddy stays home with the children. The tables can then turn while dad makes the money while mom is home enjoying her children. Moms need to keep a bit of their professional identity. My suggestion is part time can be the difference between a miserable, depressed parent and one who runs with open arms when she picks her child up from grandma’s or swaps the duties with dad.

The problem has become Bigger than stay at home moms Dr. Laura.

We live in a society where our economy is falling apart, we are technologically connected but more disconnected from each other than ever. Moms are trying to manage technology, blogs, and ecommerce businesses to make ends meet. Many of us are so physically disconnected we have no support from family, neighbors or friends to have that daily support.

We need to start a movement to limit technology for the entire family and instead reaching out to those closest around us. Parents think about how many times a day you’re having to multi-task email, cell phone, text, children, computers, video games, TV, reality TV?….The list goes on forever.

The world needs to change. Women deserve to have that balance and  need more options than becoming full time stay at home moms. Women need to go back to the days where we reached out to our neighbors! Not our Facebook friends but our actual next door neighbors.

The problem is a disconnected society and technology overload!

As in the the movie the Cable Guy, Jim Carrie’s character says, “Don’t you get it? Someone has to save all the other cable boys and girls, someone has to kill the babysitter.”